Ville d'encules
I'm questioning the wisdom of even writing this post, since it will make me unpopular with some, maybe even my own family, but this blog needs some spice, and so here it is.
Recently, an argument was made (keeping in mind that this is my interpretation and it was not an explicitly constructed argument) that it is unethical or irresponsible for a (male) teacher of English to seek a romantic entanglement (possibly short-term), with a (female) Korean native.
Their supporting points are :
1. a low level of communication means that your relationship is based on a physical level that doesn't permit of the hallowed meeting of minds that characterizes the vast majority of relationships between people who share the same culture.
2. because this sort of dalliance has none of the affirmative platonic joys in point #1 above it necessarily means that the Korean woman is using the foreign man to learn English.
Were there other arguments? If so, they escaped my notice.
These arguments are bollocks. For the first, it's up to respective participants in any friendship or marriage or booty call to decide how important deep conversations are.
For the second, we are all users or being used to some extent in any relationship with other people. If a woman decides she will sweeten her language exchange with a bit of all right from some sexy exotic Canadian English teacher, then where is the harm in that? Especially if he has some foresight into the inner workings of the feminine mind and knows that they are a variable race of breezy-headed whimsy and blithe contractors in all logical or passionate dealings.
I will state for the record that I am not now involved with anyone, but I do want to learn more about the Korean language and Korean culture. So, who is the logical choice for a guide? Am I a predator? A careless loon? Please explain how.
Recently, an argument was made (keeping in mind that this is my interpretation and it was not an explicitly constructed argument) that it is unethical or irresponsible for a (male) teacher of English to seek a romantic entanglement (possibly short-term), with a (female) Korean native.
Their supporting points are :
1. a low level of communication means that your relationship is based on a physical level that doesn't permit of the hallowed meeting of minds that characterizes the vast majority of relationships between people who share the same culture.
2. because this sort of dalliance has none of the affirmative platonic joys in point #1 above it necessarily means that the Korean woman is using the foreign man to learn English.
Were there other arguments? If so, they escaped my notice.
These arguments are bollocks. For the first, it's up to respective participants in any friendship or marriage or booty call to decide how important deep conversations are.
For the second, we are all users or being used to some extent in any relationship with other people. If a woman decides she will sweeten her language exchange with a bit of all right from some sexy exotic Canadian English teacher, then where is the harm in that? Especially if he has some foresight into the inner workings of the feminine mind and knows that they are a variable race of breezy-headed whimsy and blithe contractors in all logical or passionate dealings.
I will state for the record that I am not now involved with anyone, but I do want to learn more about the Korean language and Korean culture. So, who is the logical choice for a guide? Am I a predator? A careless loon? Please explain how.
posted by Vivec at 6:32 p.m.
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Your argument is valid especially when "respective participants" mutually decide on relationship perametres. But let me ask you, with no intended offense- Has your foresight into the feminine psyche helped your relationships or do you just feel like an asshole when things don't go the way you imagined?
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